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Lord Barrius -> RE: =ED= DNS August 12, 2011 - The Unending Battle for Better Flash Performance (8/13/2011 1:17:05)
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I'll ask that all further discussion of forum policy stay in PM with me as I've asked before. However, I do want to respond to this:quote:
ORIGINAL: Sageofpeace
there is just so many thing that we would like to discuss with them in Public not by Pm, since we join this forum we been oppress, our right have been torn out by people who don't even play the game and i don't necessary mean LORD BARRUIM since he just got the position but we have been disappoint so many time that it JUST JUSt!! There's that word again. Oppressed. I really don't get that word's continued use in this forum. Being forced to work in poor working conditions for little or no pay is oppression. Being physically beaten when you don't do as you're told, that's oppression. Having your rights trampled on, your property stolen from you, and your voice ignored, that's all oppression. Being told not to flame other people or face the consequences for refusing to show other people the respect they deserve? That's another word entirely: expectations.
When you agreed to join this forum, you agreed to follow its rules. You agreed to the Terms and Conditions of this forum. And one of our biggest expectations out of our users is to treat others with respect and dignity. AEF hosts a massive range of opinions and people, some of whom may be more easily offended than others. You can't just blurt out whatever comes to mind, that's how feelings get hurt. And when feelings get hurt, we (as forum staff) are obligated to act in order to keep the forum a safe community for everyone.
This isn't unique to the AEF, it's a fact of life that if you choose to say whatever you want, wherever you want, without thinking about anyone else or the possible problems you could create by doing so, you will face consequences for those actions. At your place of work, there are certain expectations to be followed. If you cuss out another employee or a customer, you can probably expect that your boss won't just pat you on the back and say "well, you were just mad". You can probably expect that you'll be outside on the street corner without a job, pretty much on the spot. Similarly, you can't scream "FIRE" in a movie theater and then tell the cops that it was all in good fun. You can instead expect to find yourself getting cozy in a jail cell for disturbing the peace.
We have not, and will not, ever tell you that you can't get angry when you don't like something. We're also never going to tell you not to express your point of view. What we will tell you to do is to find constructive ways to express those points of view. And I should emphasize, again, that's not the same thing as saying "you can't have an opinion". What we've always asked you to do is to control that anger, channel those feelings of frustration and rage, and put them together in a calm, polite, and constructive fashion that won't offend, insult, or degrade anyone.
Right now, I suspect the reason that it seems so difficult to see the difference between "you can't have an opinion" and "you can't be rude and nasty to each other or the staff" is because you lack experience with such a thing. You all came from a forum which tended not to react to these sorts of behaviors, and that was okay at the time because the community was composed primarily of older people. But you're in a forum with very young players, as well as very old players, now. That method of expressing yourselves is no longer "okay", because it can lead to a lot of people getting upset and a lot more hurt feelings, rather than contributing to fixing the problem. We're certainly not trying to oppress anyone here. But we have a job to do, too. We have to make sure that our forum users are protected from things that might cause them emotional or mental harm, and that sometimes means that posts which veer too far have to go. We have expectations of all of you to post in a manner that will help us keep the forums safe and friendly for everyone, and when everyone starts doing that, the forums will start seeming like a far less "oppressive" place than you may think.
And now, let's please try to keep the topic focused on the subject at hand: the Design Notes. Remember....control your anger and channel your feelings into a calm, polite, constructive post that still tells the devs how you feel, without resorting to insults or flaming. That little change makes a BIG difference in how your posts are read and received by others!
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