Lord Barrius
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goldslayer1: A tip to help you is to look at the post from the other person's perspective. If you were that person, would what you said to them offend you or spark a negative reaction? If so, then you probably went too far and you should try to dial it back. Doesn't work for everyone, but for some (like myself) it can help you catch yourself before you say something you may regret. Debates can get very intense and it's not uncommon or hard for them to start stepping into the realm of personal attacks. What I'm asking you to do is strive to avoid those sorts of attacks, because they only result in everyone's feelings getting hurt and no one gets what they wanted. If, instead, you debate with each other and agree to disagree, that's fine. No one gets hurt and you each got an opportunity to understand where the other person might be coming from, and why they believe as they do. Part of our job is making sure that people feel welcome here, and that means enforcing rules that some may not like, not because we're mean but because those rules definitely provide significant benefits that aid the community in being a safe, constructive, friendly place to be. Don't hate us for doing our job, because if we didn't do that job, it would only make the community suffer as a result. Some of the very worst forum communities out there are not bad communities due to too much moderation, but rather, not nearly enough. And when the forums look bad, the game looks bad, and the game starts to suffer too. I'm pretty sure none of us want that. We're all here to make things better, not worse. We just disagree on how to go about that. And that's okay. Disagreements happen all the time in real life. It makes more sense for us to each provide our side of the story and to explain it to others so that, even if we still don't agree in the end, we at least understand each other's points of view. xxmirxx: I would have to strongly disagree with you. The DN thread was removed due to extreme misbehavior. Forum members were attacking each other as well as staff in such a derogatory, inflammatory manner that it was only making things worse and worse. That's why the discussion is currently on hold for a while, so everyone can have an opportunity to cool down and regain a clear head.
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